Tag Archives: sexual assault

Lovers/Haters: Love, love, love

1 Apr

There are a few lovers I want to acknowledge this week, and to be honest, I didn’t feel like thinking about all of the negativity surrounding women’s rights today. Today we are going to celebrate women!

“Women are not a commodity to be haggled over or bartered with. Their bodies, their reproductive rights are theirs and theirs alone!

The GOP and its allies have no fucking authority over what a woman can and cannot do with their bodies.

Women are not property. Women are not slaves. They are human beings–just as us men are!”

This blog post came through my reproductive rights Google alert today and I almost missed it. Thankfully I read the fine print because it’s a great post! My favorite thing about it? It’s written by a feminist male. I love when feminist males speak up about these kinds of issues! I love my ladies, but I have to admit, sometimes it feels like an us vs. them argument, which not only creates unmovable sides but ignores other genders as well. Check it out – it’s a great rant.

“By simply helping preserve their personal records, we can make sure our veterans have the care they need while supporting justice for assault victims.”

Senators Amy Klobuchar (D-MN), Susan Collins (R-ME), Lisa Murkowski (R-AK), and Claire McCaskill (D-MO) introduced a bill called the Support for Survivors Act to assist victims of sexual assault in the military. The bill would require the military to keep all evidence of sexual assaults committed on servicemembers instead of destroying them and sweeping the issue under the rug. It may not be much, but it’s certainly a start to acknowledging this consistent issue (which I wrote about here).

“To all the women out there with inconvenient dreams, never stop dreaming and never stop fighting.”

I love this post by Abortion Gang (see the blogroll link as well!). It discusses why she uses birth control and why she would choose to have an abortion if her birth control failed. It’s a wonderful post that discusses that nasty “convenience” claim that anti-choicers love to make.

Any lovers you want to highlight?

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Done with the victim blaming

9 Mar

For those of you who haven’t heard, an 11-year old girl was raped by EIGHTEEN men in Cleveland, TX. What’s the reaction? Shock, dismay, care for the innocent victim? Hell, no! Instead, there have been mass amounts of victim blaming. Yes, seriously. For example in the New York Times disturbingly rape-friendly article:

Residents in the neighborhood where the abandoned trailer stands—known as the Quarters—said the victim had been visiting various friends there for months. They said she dressed older than her age, wearing makeup and fashions more appropriate to a woman in her 20s. She would hang out with teenage boys at a playground, some said.

“Where was her mother? What was her mother thinking?” said Ms. Harrison, one of a handful of neighbors who would speak on the record. “How can you have an 11-year-old child missing down in the Quarters?”

The article also sympathizes the rapists – did I mention there were 18 men? – saying:

The case has rocked this East Texas community to its core and left many residents in the working-class neighborhood where the attack took place with unanswered questions. Among them is, if the allegations are proved, how could their young men have been drawn into such an act?

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“It’s just destroyed our community,” said Sheila Harrison, 48, a hospital worker who says she knows several of the defendants. “These boys have to live with this the rest of their lives.”

THE BOYS HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT??? WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK THE GIRL HAS TO LIVE WITH???

Forget about depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, sexual issues, lack of trust, difficulty in relationships, remembering what happened every second of every day – forget that she’s a person because she was asking for it with her slutty makeup and wish to fit in and be liked by people. She didn’t even go to the police (which is VERY common because of the victim blaming backlash that often occurs) – they came to her when a cell phone video started circulating around the community. The only good thing that might come out of this is that maybe this girl will be able to get help to allow her to cope with what happened to her.

To the poor, innocent girl who was a victim – we support you 100%.

Read a decent cover of the story here (FOX, you continue to surprise me!): http://www.foxnews.com/us/2011/03/09/18-arrested-sexual-assaults-11-year-old-texas-girl/

Or here: http://www.themarknews.com/articles/4323-18-texas-men-charged-in-gang-rape-of-11-year-old-girl

And because I’m overwhelming sick of people claiming that we women deserve it when we get raped sadistically by assholes, here’s a clip from The Vagina Monologues for you all.

Rape in the armed forces and Peace Corps

8 Mar

Let me say up front before the complaints start piling in – I support our troops. What I don’t support is the proven number of sexual assault crimes that have been perpetrated against women in the military. Guess what, boys? Women have every right to be in the military if that is their choice, whether you like it or not. And if you don’t like it? Too freaking bad.

Many news stories have released stories about sexual assault in the military in recent months – all of which is disturbing and overwhelmingly disappointing, but not surprising.

First, many service members are suing the Pentagon for turning a blind eye to the sexual assault crimes that happen on a regular basis: Lawsuit claims Pentagon turned blind eye to military rape victims

One woman reports that she was told, “Marines don’t cry” after sharing her story. You know what else Marines don’t do? DISRESPECT THEIR COMRADES.

Another article on the story: Vets seek changes in military’s handling of rape, sexual assault cases

The Star Tribune released an article last December about the rising rates of sexual assault within the military: Women vets’ secret war: Sexual trauma

This is the only thing I’m going to even say about this article:

66,342 female veterans report assaults from 2002 to 2008 — by their band of brothers.

Even more disturbing – and surely an oxymoron – is the shockingly high number of occurrences of sexual assault in the Peace Corps: Peace Corps gang rape: Volunteer says U.S. agency ignored warnings (Jan. 12, 2011)

The post speaks for itself:

More than 1,000 young American women have been raped or sexually assaulted in the last decade while serving as Peace Corps volunteers in foreign countries.

In some cases, victims say, the Peace Corps has ignored safety concerns and later tried to blame the women who were raped for bringing on the attacks.

“Every day we felt unsafe. And we reported everything, we just kept reporting,” she said in an interview with five other former volunteers who also were rape or sexual assault victims.

“When the decision was made that I was to go to Washington, D.C., I was told to tell volunteers that I was having my wisdom teeth out,” Smochek says.

Between 2000 and 2009, Peace Corps figures show there were 221 rapes or attempted rapes, 147 major sexual attacks and 719 other sexual assaults—defined as unwanted or forced kissing, fondling or groping.

Imagine your daughter  going into the Peace Corps – you’d be proud, right? Now imagine that your daughter is coming out with after this has happened.

How are we supposed to trust that these people are going to protect our country? How are these women supposed to trust that these people will be on their side?

Most importantly – what is happening to change this??